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Thursday, 11 May 2017

MISTAKES & BAD TIMES - THEY HAPPEN


Everybody makes mistakes and goes through bad times, it’s a given. If you believe some people around you do not when you naturally compare your life to others, either they are really good at hiding it, or simply their ‘bad time’ or ‘mistake’ has not come yet. Either way it really common and all of us will experience these negative times. I personally have had many of these moments in life, however, I’m writing this post not mainly as result of myself but because many who are close to me have been either struggling mentally and/or have made what they believe are ‘mistakes’ very recently. So if you reading this are going through a tough time, let me just say, it's going to be okay. I've witnessed it all firsthand from the perspective of a supporter, but have also experienced some negativity and mistake making myself.  

Everyone messes up sometimes but hating others or hating yourself will get you nowhere.  

To avoid all of this self-loathing and bitterness towards others, you need to ask why do you feel this way? Or why did you make the mistake? Often you will find that it is not the fault of others or even the fact that you are awful person. It is often just natural human carelessness or strong emotions (even subconscious emotions) that can cause problems. So you should look inwards at yourself and ask why you have gotten to this position. By looking this way and trying to understand yourself you probably will not hate yourself or hate others. Negative emotions such as sadness, anger, and frustration will certainly exacerbate the issues too. So in other words, time is crucial. Give yourself time to process things, and take care of yourself during the process. 

Think of all of the good you have done and felt. Think of all of the goodness you have felt. 

It's hard to think this way, obviously. But remember that one bad time or mistake will not define you, rather all of the good things about you are more important. Unless you're a genuinely malicious person who intentionally hurts others and causes problems, bad moments will not define you. So sit back and think, what are all of the good things you have done in life or what have you achieved so far? Write it all down, I'm sure it's quite lenghty! Also then think about all of the times you've experienced happiness, and remind yourself you will experience happiness again. Everything is temporary after all. 

Talk to people. 

I find that difficult times are great at bringing people together. It allows us to talk openly and honestly and allows people to support you. Their perspective and opinion is also key. They will be able to offer you advice and help you move forward. Being around those who love and care for people will remind you of all the good you have in your life, and by talking to these people you will also prevent the dreaded 'bottling up' action that many of us do. By letting it all out you will feel a lot let stressed. 

Moving forward. 

Once you feel comfortable, it's time to start moving forward. But you must remember that things can often take time to move forward. Good things come to those who wait. As long as you continue moving forward and acting positively and constructively you will improve, you cannot go wrong.

Self-care. 

What makes you happy? Make sure not to neglect these things. It's hard to feel comfortable doing nice things when you feel guilt for doing something wrong or feel very down, however it is important to take care of yourself. Whether it is pampering yourself, staying cosy in your home, exercise, socialising with friends or even partaking in your favourite hobby. By taking care of yourself, it will lessen the stress and burden that is already hanging on your shoulders. 

It is all okay, we learn from these experiences. 

What you will probably find is that after all of this negativity blows over, you will come out as an even better person. Of course, it's not a given that you will not experience anything like this ever again, but you will most likely be better equipped to deal with it, and if you experience a time that is more severely challenging, you will be able to get through. What is crucial is that you keep moving forward and you are always trying to improve yourself.  


Don't half-ass your life, but also take care of yourself during the journey <3
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11 comments

  1. These are such amazing tips! It's so crucial to be kind to yourself and forgive those mistakes. If we don't forgive ourselves, we'll never move forward! And I also find it helpful to talk through things with other people. It helps me get perspective and ideas about how to move forward!

    xx
    Emily

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  2. This is such an important post, Sophie! I am definitely guilty of spending too much time worrying and hating myself over mistakes that I've made and bad times that I've experienced, when really what I should be doing is focusing on how not to make the same mistakes again as beating myself up really doesn't help anyone, as you rightly point out here! I definitely find that talking to people helps, as very often they will point out that really, the thing that I'm feeling at the moment is the biggest and worst problem ever, is really not so bad! Thank you ever so much for sharing this wonderful post!

    Abbey 😍 www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

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  3. Great post, I think it's important for us not to bash ourselves for being human. We all make mistakes, I prefer to learn and grow from it rather than beat myself up over it!

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  4. Hi, what a fab post. We do all indeed make mistakes we may beat ourselves up at the time about them. I t is important that we learn from them and move forward, Chloe #TeacupClub

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  5. I love this post! I am so bad at dwelling on my mistakes and find it so hard to forgive myself, but I understand it's so important to do it! Thanks for these tips.
    Claire xo

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  6. This is a really lovely and important post, thanks so much for sharing! I love all of these tips and I need to continue to apply them in my day-to-day life. Aoife x https://allaboutaoifeblog.wordpress.com/

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  7. Such a good post, everyone makes mistakes and go through hard times, its how you focus and improve on them. Its so important to remember that you arent the only one and everyone is probably in the same boat as you!

    Sarah | sazsinclair.blogspot.co.uk xx

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  8. I need to remember, in order to appreciate the good, you need to feel the bad. And that everything I go through, someone else is almost definitely going through the same thing, so it's okay to be sad! xx

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  9. Such an important message to put across. I'm guilty of being hard on myself and sometimes it just takes that little reminder that we're all human, we all make mistakes!

    Libby x

    www.whatlibbysays.co.uk

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  10. What great tips to when you're not feeling 100% with yourself! I will definitely be following these tips when I'm feeling in the dumps for sure. I agree that self-care is so important, it allows you to appreciate yourself!

    Tab x
    http://whattabithaloves.blogspot.co.uk/

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  11. This is an important post, and shares a point that needs to be heard by many!
    Self care is HUGE, and more of us need to practice it! We focus so much on taking care of everyone else around us, our own mental health is often forgotten. The problem is that you can't help others if you have nothing left to give... Thank you for sharing!

    Britt | http://alternativelyspeaking.ca/

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